In my opinion, it doesn't matter how many sexual partners she's had. What's important is if she's going to be faithful to you from now on or not. In regard to the second line of your post, I agree with what Kimi is saying… I think men should ask themselves this question for a change... That way, this argument won't be considered a double standard.
What a sensitive and quirky blog you have, well written, and so intense. Sounds like you are at ground zero, my friend. I agree with farzad--if you are talking of a deep relationship, it is the truth between you that counts most.
Kimia - well sad but true. unfortunately everything is valued with money even friendship...
Farzad - Exactemando... I believe in that all the way. Yet there is a contrast in the way people wanna love, have sex & measure it with money. The sad part is when we decide over such matters financially rather than logically :-)
Jarvenpa - tnx. well have me some fluctuations... usually in a good mood but well our mood is the outcome of a multifactorial event. Sometimes it is even fun to be at ground zero.
I don't believe in double standards. If men can have many sexual partners and be called a stud, why should a woman who has had many partners be called a whore? It never made sense to me! I think that a lot of men are intimidated by an "experienced" woman. Their fragile egos can't take the potential disappointment of not living up to the sexual expectations of a woman who knows what she likes! So, they seek out virgins who will have no idea how crappy they are in bed.
As for money, as one grows older, priorities change. The concept of true (and lasting) love is hard to realize, but some desires can be satisfied if the money is there.
David - nowadays it has become a fashion to date others while in marriage or be married and live it through but have other sexual partners as well... somewhat sth named family seems to soon be limited to history books ;-)
For me it ain't important what's happened in the past but the future...
I know people say that one should leave the past to the past. I have however learnt that the past always come back to haunt you. If her or your past lovers are an issue; I’d suggest talking about it and get it out of the way… for good. The past and the future are connected. No one arrives at today without going through yesterday. If it is a case of more than one lover currently, well then there are all sorts of complications. When it come to love sex and money, these things tend to unravel in the nastiest ways. In the end there are no winners, just hurt and pain... all casualties of our own emotions. True emotion or love cannot be measured in currency. Love is not materialistic… GREED however, is.
You Don't know...(I.S.)ok!Irene Saenz date of birth:7/15/54 An Angel from Heaven that I was...Someone,who was hit on the Head and rejected by mankind and forced to live a life from day one totally unpleasing to God. The joke was on those who thought they could play a fast one on me and make me think I was an Angel,and I would be fooled,but I got news for them,I really was an angel after all..Am I stil? No! but it won't change facts that I was when others thought I was not...And there was obviously someone in this world that knew,who that individual is,beats me,only God knows I can only assume it was the individual that hit me shortly after I discovered I was and hit me on the head repeatedly with a hammer.
*** As far as the meaning for this ad,and in response to those who have something to say about it My response: * My deepest hurt and pain that I would do such a thing.But you don't know the true story and if you did,you might sympathize with me.First of all I would have never gotten in that situation because I do not believe in dishonesty nor in hurting anyone.But,putting my amnesia aside first of all, and lets just make it come in second for just one moment. When I love I love dearly from the heart,but if you make me go spook and terrify the living daylights out of me,well lets just say I might act unseemingly,this does not come about immediately,but in time...And secondly,if you throw me for a loop and give me a monster for a husband I of course will not act myself.And if you think you have someone special but you end up with something totally the oposite of that,how are you gone handle it?How would you handle it? Would you abide.. By your new love and your new life only because she turned out to be something you did not expect.Think about it?If you think someone is ready to go to Heaven because they are so sweet but later you find they are not what they appear to be,what would you do?Run for your life if your life is in danger,right?Well,in my case that is just what I did, and run I did and kept runing and never wanted to look back.And I didn't.. Then I get hit on the head not only once but repeatedly,and I am no longer in a comma,then another season in my life,nor in Heaven,but instead,else where,and then even up against the worse you can imagine...Not once not twice but several times... And therefore I forgot so & so,and all bout the past,to the T. So then thinking back,there was the first offense, and there was one after another from a second to a third and there was always something, and always treated that something in the same way,till one day it all caved in on me.But,how would you like to be in my shoes to not ever have a memory of anything but to have a life of shattered dreams and broken hearted and in dispair, a life shredded to a trillion pieces like as if in the biggest fire in history,but because you are still alife and you don't know how,but you are glad you are alife,but hey! you are trying to put it together but you don't know who is going to get you from behind as before repeatedly from day one, and you don't know who you can trust, so you play it cool and you tried to start your life repeatedly and start a new, as if there is no pain,no heartache,and as if you never had no problems but the past always come back to hunt you.Reminds me of a show I watched today with Tom Seleck when he was up against something he could not understand,I didn't even watch the show but only gathered a second or two of the show,but it seemed he was into a serious ordeal with not knowing why someone wanted him dead.He mentioned about someone attacking him in some form and he having to fight them and not even know why he was fighting and that kind of related to my story in some ways.I was up against that at one time,as a matter of fact only God knows but it seemsed that I wrote that story myself trying to reach to the public in some form not precisely as the movie may have been written but I put my two cents in trying to put my implication.Because a lot of what I have written in the past and have gone to the public against my will because it was not polished yet, has been truths with lies but I will tell you,something,is that not the way movies are made of.When they are fictional they always are triggered by something that happened to someone,either a dream triggered you or motivated you or something frightened you or fears you had when you were a child or putting yourself in someone elses shoes for just a moment,would you not say? Well those are secrets of my own that you or no one has a right to know how I tick or do not tick.That is why we all have a personal story. I may love someone dearly and be on my way to Heaven and be a wonderful person but if I left you behind and you don't know it,and if I return for what ever reason you don't have a right to abuse me just because you see me living a new life,or just because I am alife,you don't know my story.You don't know my pain you don't know what I encountered along the way,that is why it is written when you see your brother in pain help him,if he is hurting help him,for someday you might be in the same boat and you too will need help.My life will obviosly never be the same,everyone else knows their pain,but no one knows my pain nor Gods pain,only yoi,you never realized God hurts too.You only think about yourself people...You never once thought about how badly the Devil wanted to Get to the Heavens to Kill God..Has he,No!but..I will only say,but! - I will not tell his secrets,it is not for me to tell you,but I wish I could tell you, (the Christian) what you all did to God Almighty the One and Only True God that Created the Heavens and The Earth and that sent his only Begotten son of God who died on the Cross for all his sins..You could not pay me even a Billion Dollars to tell you that unless God himself would tell me personally to tell you all.At one time I wanted bad to tell you,but not any more...God has taken his vengence and he will do what he said in his holy word what he will do,and it is not up to me to tell you his plans other than what his Holy Word said. One thing I will tell you,is what the woman said to you of which I heard none personally and if I did I don't recall what she said,but I do know what she was to be telling you and I believe God that is how I Know that what she told you is true.The woman who said to you all a message that lasted for days,a message that was meant for me to give to you,but instead a catholic woman said it...Want to know why she was chosen and not a person of a Baptist faith as I. I will tell you why? Because when I was a child I was a Catholic but not of my own choice but was chosen by those who were of that faith.And because when I became a christian I was still attending that church almost regularly,even though I did not believe in that faith other than in his son Jesus and all of the biblical believe that is taught in the Baptist faith,but I gathered if my church and my affililation helped others,and my faith started while visiting that church repeatedly and even was in keeping with their customs without over doing it,withot going too deep in the faith with keeping the:Following of every rule to the T. but yet I still believe,then God has christians in every faith with the exception of those that don't believe in his son Jesus,his only begotten son Jesus who suffered and died on the cross that we all who are left behind might live. If God said through his Holy Word,Oh!you of little faith,and he also said,Who so ever will let him come,He also said,(Come!)He said come into my house and eat of this bread...As you eat this bread remember me... Then again my ideas brought Billions to a few and brought millions to many and now they are up there where I once was and I am down here just like Jesus was when he was born in a manger he had nothing..So,I have nothing and everyone made certain I lost everything and everyone I ever cared for and loved,and held dearly and even sacret and every man I ever cared for and loved slipped through my fingers and I have been ridiculed,my bible taken from me,except the one in my heart and in the engraved memory of my mind,and you have made me, the laughing stock of the world, and many know who I am and what I am talking about,and you made me pay over and over again for what I was gulty of and for what I was not guilty of,You made yourself,Judge,Jury and execution,but that is ok.Because Jesus had nothing so I have nothing and that is ok..Because wheather you like it or not I still have him...For not life,nor death,nor things PRESENT,nor things to come( nothing ) shall ever seperate us,and that means me too-from the Love of God which is in Christ Jesus..But,remember he is not talking to every human being alife...Only those to whom: Who so ever will let him come...I mean, are you really coming? Or are you pretending you are coming to him? Or - You, come to him today,and gone the next to your old ways..And your old way of living..And are you really being forced to live unGodly?Are you living unGodly because that is your choice for now? Or because you hate the world,and everyone in it...For if you hate the world how can you say you Love God?I am talking to everyone alife...You don't really mean you hate the world,you just hate the situation,and you don't love yourself right then and there.I believe it may be written in his Holy word somewhere : if you do not love him who you can see,then how can you love him who you do not see.To all those who say:Oh! he loves everyone,God loves everyone,I don't care what you do or what you will continue to do,he will still love,because he loves everyone.What you really saying is that you can do no wrong...And wrong does not exist but it does exist,because if it didn't, he would not have had to come to die on the cross... In real essence he died on the cross for all those that believe that he died for them as well...And those who do not believe your father is not God,but he who is not God..AS per those who are mentally ill his mercy endureth for ever,and he knows who they are,God will not be fooled.That too me means his grace in sufficent,as he said unto me once...But,to those who do not want to believe willingly and have left his path willingly,you are not covered to the best of my knowledge...For Jesus only said Father keep these that you have given me from the evil one..Who is the (evil-one)He who cricifies Jesus on the cross,and he who rejects God constantly and want nothing to do with him,then one day God won't try to woo you to him..And then there is also,he who hates the Godly and or those who may not be Godly but are still trying to live by Gods laws but someone,a people,an organization and or organizations won't let them for what ever reason,and what ever is their purpose...Either they contaminate their food or they play head games with them,or they make them live a life a life to where they don't know wheather they are coming or going,I got news for you,God sees the heart and there is nothing you can say or do that can out beat God because the battle has been won...When he said,it is finished he took care of all the evil that evil can do,and he cannot hurt the christian...You might think you got the Christian beat,and you might think they are weak but you are dead wrong.For we are victoriou through Christ Jesus who gave his life that we might live. You may take money,possessions and all our earthly possessions,and even food, but you cannot take God away from us..Because we belong to Him,to God (To Jesus) period! All hail the name of Jesus Christ-Gods only Begotten Son of God. And his earthly mother was the Blessed Virgin Mary...
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Nobody spends money without getting an advantage. Is that a good clue for you?
Hi Omid –
In my opinion, it doesn't matter how many sexual partners she's had. What's important is if she's going to be faithful to you from now on or not.
In regard to the second line of your post, I agree with what Kimi is saying…
I think men should ask themselves this question for a change... That way, this argument won't be considered a double standard.
Cheers :)
What a sensitive and quirky blog you have, well written, and so intense. Sounds like you are at ground zero, my friend. I agree with farzad--if you are talking of a deep relationship, it is the truth between you that counts most.
Kimia - well sad but true. unfortunately everything is valued with money even friendship...
Farzad - Exactemando... I believe in that all the way. Yet there is a contrast in the way people wanna love, have sex & measure it with money. The sad part is when we decide over such matters financially rather than logically :-)
Jarvenpa - tnx. well have me some fluctuations... usually in a good mood but well our mood is the outcome of a multifactorial event. Sometimes it is even fun to be at ground zero.
I don't believe in double standards. If men can have many sexual partners and be called a stud, why should a woman who has had many partners be called a whore? It never made sense to me! I think that a lot of men are intimidated by an "experienced" woman. Their fragile egos can't take the potential disappointment of not living up to the sexual expectations of a woman who knows what she likes! So, they seek out virgins who will have no idea how crappy they are in bed.
As for money, as one grows older, priorities change. The concept of true (and lasting) love is hard to realize, but some desires can be satisfied if the money is there.
David - nowadays it has become a fashion to date others while in marriage or be married and live it through but have other sexual partners as well... somewhat sth named family seems to soon be limited to history books ;-)
For me it ain't important what's happened in the past but the future...
I know people say that one should leave the past to the past. I have however learnt that the past always come back to haunt you. If her or your past lovers are an issue; I’d suggest talking about it and get it out of the way… for good. The past and the future are connected. No one arrives at today without going through yesterday.
If it is a case of more than one lover currently, well then there are all sorts of complications. When it come to love sex and money, these things tend to unravel in the nastiest ways. In the end there are no winners, just hurt and pain... all casualties of our own emotions.
True emotion or love cannot be measured in currency. Love is not materialistic… GREED however, is.
days of love+sex seems to be numbered! it is mostly love & sex in different fronts...
You Don't know...(I.S.)ok!Irene Saenz date of birth:7/15/54
An Angel from Heaven that I was...Someone,who was hit on the Head and rejected by mankind and forced to live a life from day one totally unpleasing to God.
The joke was on those who thought they could play a fast one on me and make me think I was an Angel,and I would be fooled,but I got news for them,I really was an angel after all..Am I stil? No! but it won't change facts that I was when others thought I was not...And there was obviously someone in this world that knew,who that individual is,beats me,only God knows I can only assume it was the individual that hit me shortly after I discovered I was and hit me on the head repeatedly with a hammer.
*** As far as the meaning for this ad,and in response to those who have something to say about it
My response:
* My deepest hurt and pain that I would do such a thing.But you don't know the true story and if you did,you might sympathize with me.First of all I would have never gotten in that situation because I do not believe in dishonesty nor in hurting anyone.But,putting my amnesia aside first of all, and lets just make it come in second for just one moment. When I love I love dearly from the heart,but if you make me go spook and terrify the living daylights out of me,well lets just say I might act unseemingly,this does not come about immediately,but in time...And secondly,if you throw me for a loop and give me a monster for a husband I of course will not act myself.And if you think you have someone special but you end up with something totally the oposite of that,how are you gone handle it?How would you handle it? Would you abide.. By your new love and your new life only because she turned out to be something you did not expect.Think about it?If you think someone is ready to go to Heaven because they are so sweet but later you find they are not what they appear to be,what would you do?Run for your life if your life is in danger,right?Well,in my case that is just what I did, and run I did and kept runing and never wanted to look back.And I didn't..
Then I get hit on the head not only once but repeatedly,and I am no longer in a comma,then another season in my life,nor in Heaven,but instead,else where,and then even up against the worse you can imagine...Not once not twice but several times... And therefore I forgot so & so,and all bout the past,to the T. So then thinking back,there was the first offense, and there was one after another from a second to a third and there was always something, and always treated that something in the same way,till one day it all caved in on me.But,how would you like to be in my shoes to not ever have a memory of anything but to have a life of shattered dreams and broken hearted and in dispair, a life shredded to a trillion pieces like as if in the biggest fire in history,but because you are still alife and you don't know how,but you are glad you are alife,but hey! you are trying to put it together but you don't know who is going to get you from behind as before repeatedly from day one, and you don't know who you can trust, so you play it cool and you tried to start your life repeatedly and start a new, as if there is no pain,no heartache,and as if you never had no problems but the past always come back to hunt you.Reminds me of a show I watched today with Tom Seleck when he was up against something he could not understand,I didn't even watch the show but only gathered a second or two of the show,but it seemed he was into a serious ordeal with not knowing why someone wanted him dead.He mentioned about someone attacking him in some form and he having to fight them and not even know why he was fighting and that kind of related to my story in some ways.I was up against that at one time,as a matter of fact only God knows but it seemsed that I wrote that story myself trying to reach to the public in some form not precisely as the movie may have been written but I put my two cents in trying to put my implication.Because a lot of what I have written in the past and have gone to the public against my will because it was not polished yet, has been truths with lies but I will tell you,something,is that not the way movies are made of.When they are fictional they always are triggered by something that happened to someone,either a dream triggered you or motivated you or something frightened you or fears you had when you were a child or putting yourself in someone elses shoes for just a moment,would you not say? Well those are secrets of my own that you or no one has a right to know how I tick or do not tick.That is why we all have a personal story.
I may love someone dearly and be on my way to Heaven and be a wonderful person but if I left you behind and you don't know it,and if I return for what ever reason you don't have a right to abuse me just because you see me living a new life,or just because I am alife,you don't know my story.You don't know my pain you don't know what I encountered along the way,that is why it is written when you see your brother in pain help him,if he is hurting help him,for someday you might be in the same boat and you too will need help.My life will obviosly never be the same,everyone else knows their pain,but no one knows my pain nor Gods pain,only yoi,you never realized God hurts too.You only think about yourself people...You never once thought about how badly the Devil wanted to Get to the Heavens to Kill God..Has he,No!but..I will only say,but! - I will not tell his secrets,it is not for me to tell you,but I wish I could tell you, (the Christian) what you all did to God Almighty the One and Only True God that Created the Heavens and The Earth and that sent his only Begotten son of God who died on the Cross for all his sins..You could not pay me even a Billion Dollars to tell you that unless God himself would tell me personally to tell you all.At one time I wanted bad to tell you,but not any more...God has taken his vengence and he will do what he said in his holy word what he will do,and it is not up to me to tell you his plans other than what his Holy Word said. One thing I will tell you,is what the woman said to you of which I heard none personally and if I did I don't recall what she said,but I do know what she was to be telling you and I believe God that is how I Know that what she told you is true.The woman who said to you all a message that lasted for days,a message that was meant for me to give to you,but instead a catholic woman said it...Want to know why she was chosen and not a person of a Baptist faith as I. I will tell you why? Because when I was a child I was a Catholic but not of my own choice but was chosen by those who were of that faith.And because when I became a christian I was still attending that church almost regularly,even though I did not believe in that faith other than in his son Jesus and all of the biblical believe that is taught in the Baptist faith,but I gathered if my church and my affililation helped others,and my faith started while visiting that church repeatedly and even was in keeping with their customs without over doing it,withot going too deep in the faith with keeping the:Following of every rule to the T. but yet I still believe,then God has christians in every faith with the exception of those that don't believe in his son Jesus,his only begotten son Jesus who suffered and died on the cross that we all who are left behind might live. If God said through his Holy Word,Oh!you of little faith,and he also said,Who so ever will let him come,He also said,(Come!)He said come into my house and eat of this bread...As you eat this bread remember me...
Then again my ideas brought Billions to a few and brought millions to many and now they are up there where I once was and I am down here just like Jesus was when he was born in a manger he had nothing..So,I have nothing and everyone made certain I lost everything and everyone I ever cared for and loved,and held dearly and even sacret and every man I ever cared for and loved slipped through my fingers and I have been ridiculed,my bible taken from me,except the one in my heart and in the engraved memory of my mind,and you have made me, the laughing stock of the world, and many know who I am and what I am talking about,and you made me pay over and over again for what I was gulty of and for what I was not guilty of,You made yourself,Judge,Jury and execution,but that is ok.Because Jesus had nothing so I have nothing and that is ok..Because wheather you like it or not I still have him...For not life,nor death,nor things PRESENT,nor things to come( nothing ) shall ever seperate us,and that means me too-from the Love of God which is in Christ Jesus..But,remember he is not talking to every human being alife...Only those to whom: Who so ever will let him come...I mean, are you really coming? Or are you pretending you are coming to him? Or - You, come to him today,and gone the next to your old ways..And your old way of living..And are you really being forced to live unGodly?Are you living unGodly because that is your choice for now? Or because you hate the world,and everyone in it...For if you hate the world how can you say you Love God?I am talking to everyone alife...You don't really mean you hate the world,you just hate the situation,and you don't love yourself right then and there.I believe it may be written in his Holy word somewhere : if you do not love him who you can see,then how can you love him who you do not see.To all those who say:Oh! he loves everyone,God loves everyone,I don't care what you do or what you will continue to do,he will still love,because he loves everyone.What you really saying is that you can do no wrong...And wrong does not exist but it does exist,because if it didn't, he would not have had to come to die on the cross...
In real essence he died on the cross for all those that believe that he died for them as well...And those who do not believe your father is not God,but he who is not God..AS per those who are mentally ill his mercy endureth for ever,and he knows who they are,God will not be fooled.That too me means his grace in sufficent,as he said unto me once...But,to those who do not want to believe willingly and have left his path willingly,you are not covered to the best of my knowledge...For Jesus only said Father keep these that you have given me from the evil one..Who is the (evil-one)He who cricifies Jesus on the cross,and he who rejects God constantly and want nothing to do with him,then one day God won't try to woo you to him..And then there is also,he who hates the Godly and or those who may not be Godly but are still trying to live by Gods laws but someone,a people,an organization and or organizations won't let them for what ever reason,and what ever is their purpose...Either they contaminate their food or they play head games with them,or they make them live a life a life to where they don't know wheather they are coming or going,I got news for you,God sees the heart and there is nothing you can say or do that can out beat God because the battle has been won...When he said,it is finished he took care of all the evil that evil can do,and he cannot hurt the christian...You might think you got the Christian beat,and you might think they are weak but
you are dead wrong.For we are victoriou through Christ Jesus who gave his life that we might live. You may take money,possessions and all our earthly possessions,and even food, but you cannot take God away from us..Because we belong to Him,to God (To Jesus) period!
All hail the name of Jesus Christ-Gods only Begotten Son of God.
And his earthly mother was the Blessed Virgin Mary...
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